Resources
And please reach out to me via email here with any recommendations for teachers and trainings, resources and musings, poems and books, close to your heart. As you can see, I love learning.


Every teacher and influence I have noted on the Home and About pages include an underlined hyperlink on their name, organization, or discipline that when clicked will lead you to their work. Please find your way to explore and discover any of them with whom you aren't yet familiar.
Teachers and Influences
Take the ACE Quiz – And Learn What It Does and Doesn’t Mean Adverse Childhood Experiences, Harvard University.
Relational Grid Assessment Terry Real, Relational Life Therapy.
Attachment Style Quiz Diane Poole Heller
Self Assessments
Birth Trauma & SomatoEmotional Integration after Birth Info sheet by Michelle Kilcoyne, LCSW.
Becoming Known: A Relational Model Utilizing Gestalt and Ego State-Assisted EMDR in Treating Eating Disorders. Andrew Seubert (2018) (*Note, this article contains detailed transcripts of integrative work that is akin to the work I do incorporating Gestalt parts work, EMDR and Natural Processing somatic work)
“Somatic Therapy: 5 Ways Body‑Based Healing Transforms Trauma Recovery” Grace Ogren (2025)
“The Language of Neuroception & the Bodily Self” by Aline LaPierre Psy.D., Hakomi Forum, Issue 18, 2007, p37.
Navigating the Labyrinth of Love – How Attachment Styles Sneak into Adult Relationships Heller, Diane Poole-Heller. (2013).
Info Sheets & Articles of Interest
Already Free - Bruce Tift, LMFT
Fierce Intimacy - Terry Real
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma – Bessel van der Kolk, MD
Loving What Is - Byron Katie
Polysecure - Jessica Fern
No Bad Parts - Richard Schwartz
Getting Past Your Past - Francine Shapiro
Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma – Peter A. Levine and Ann Frederick
The Tao of Trauma - Alaine Duncan and Kathy Kain
The Presence Process – Michael Brown
Nurturing Resilience: Helping Clients Move Forward from Developmental Trauma--An Integrative Somatic Approach – Kathy L. Kain and Stephen J. Terrell
A General Theory of Love - Thomas Lewis, Fari Amini, Richard Lannon
Wired for Love - Stan Tatkin
The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation - Stephen W. Porges
The Universe is a Green Dragon – Brian Swimme
Women Who Run With the Wolves – Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes
Ishmael: A Novel – Daniel Quinn
Siddhartha – Herman Hesse
More coming soon...
Books of Interest
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Inscape An integrative treatment program for addiction, emotional health and ibogaine aftercare that combines indigenous plant medicines with naturopathic systems, phytotherapy and psychotherapy.
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Michelle Marie Kilcoyne, LCSW 75239
Holistic Psychotherapy & Support